Come on! Can it be a surprise what my theme will be during our “Hot & Spicy” month of July here at FancyLittleThings? SEX! A beautiful thing created by God for a husband & wife to enjoy, yet so drastically misunderstood and misused in today’s world that it can create a lot of confusion, frustration and heart ache in even the most well-meaning relationships.
Put “spicy” in the same statement as “relationship” and you think “sex”. Why is that? What do spices and sex have in common? I decided to do a little research.
“The use of spices in food & drink enhances the flavor and aroma to any dish. Whether salty, sweet, bold or delicate, each spice has its own merits. Individual palates vary as to what tastes good together and what doesn’t.” – MJ Knoblock, eHow Contributor
- A good sex life can enhance your marriage by building intimacy and closeness, fostering selflessness and the desire to meet one another’s needs. It can take an ordinary day and make it flavorful, take an ordinary marriage and make it “gourmet”.
- Every spice has different characteristics that make it unique. The same variety that you find in your spice cabinet is needed in your sex life. As the title for Dr. Kevin Leman’s popular book points out “Sex Begins in the Kitchen”, that is to say, there is a lot more to a flourishing and flavorful sexual relationship with your spouse than just “the physical encounters under the covers”. As with any good recipe, a “lil’ of this and a lil’ of that” can create just the right mix!
- Just as no two palates are the same, their are differences in sexual appetite, particulary between the sexes. Men and woman have different sexual needs, sexual drives and sexual desires. This is not wrong, just different. The God of all the universe, the Creator of everything, made us, male and female. He made us in great detail to be the perfect fit, yet created us differently. So often we either take these differences for granted, or influenced by world thinking, begin to believe that one of the two is wrong. Not so. Men are not wrong for having such a large appetite for sex. It was given to them by God and is meant to be directed all at their wives alone. Woman are not wrong for wanting an emotional connection before a physical one. This was all part of God’s perfect design and should be embraced and celebrated within our marriages.
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