Hello! Please help me welcome my guest today, Shelly Roberts from Reaching Hearts where she shares her world of adoption, mothering, homeschooling and marriage! If you are in Illinois, you may want to look Shelly up to come speak at your next women’s event! I just love this piece of writing from Shelly – because we all either have been in, are in or will be in – dark places in our marriages, or maybe we are watching a friend or family member struggle through darkness…and we have only ONE thing to offer. ONE place to go for light.
When we walk the aisle and say “I Do” our heart and mind is full of nothing but dreamy and glorious things. We can’t imagine that aisle being a pathway to pain, sorrow, betrayal or devastation. Oh sure, we say “In plenty and in want …. richer for poorer ….. sickness and health” … but let’s be really honest with each other here … we can’t hardly imagine that we’d face a world crashing down around us.
For some though, that is what came later. Perhaps the first month, maybe 3, 5 or 10 years into it. What THEN? What is a person to do when they feel there is no one to turn to …. when all hope fades into the far off distance? What happens when your very best friend can no longer be trusted? That friend you stood before the Lord with and vowed every part of your being to. Maybe you know all too well what I speak of. Or maybe you have a loved one that does.
Betrayal whether through internet porn, a gambling addiction, alcoholism, or a fleshly affair …. they all bring destruction in a marriage. It can leave the other spouse feeling abandoned, defrauded, helpless, paralyzed, destroyed …. fill in the blank. Darkness often overtakes you and it seems the moment might come you won’t know how to take another breath. Or maybe wish you wouldn’t.