When You Have To Say Goodbye

Last week I shared with you that, after moving to a new state, I’m a bit lonely. I talked about how making friends is hard, and I shared my to-do list with you on how I was going to make friend-making a priority.

This week, I want to talk about the other side of the coin. Yes, moving has created a friend-shaped hole in my heart (for now), but it has also created a longing for the friends that I left behind.

I’ve said many goodbyes to friend that I love, and it never gets easier. But there are ways to make the distance feel a little less and to keep in touch with those far-away friends.

*Confession. I do not claim to do these things perfectly. I’ve let many phone calls go unreturned. There are letters I need to write. This list is for me just as it is for you. Let’s reconnect with our far-away friends together!*

1. Continue to make far-away friends a priority. Add their birthdays to your calendar. Call them on special occasions. Let them know that you’re thinking about them. They say distance can make the heart grow fonder, but we need to be actively and intentionally making our friends a priority in our lives, even if the distance is wide.

2.  Find a communication method that works. For some, emails are best. For others, a quick phone call or text message can help you keep in touch. Find the best way to stay connected to far-away friends knowing that it might vary from person to person.

3. Make a “thinking about you” list. Make a list of far-away friends that you want to spend time each week thinking about, praying for, and reconnecting with. Post it in a prominent place so that you can have them on your mind and hopefully remember to send them a quick email to let them know you’re still here for them.

4. It’s never too late. We all have friends that we wish we’d stayed closer with after we/they moved away, and even though it seems like it’s too late, it never is. Pick up the phone, send a special card, shoot off a quick email. It’s amazing how much distance and time can disappear when you take the first steps to reconnect.

How have you stayed connected to far-away friends? I’d love to hear your suggestions for keeping your far-away friendships strong!

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