Please welcome back a regular (and favorite!) guest of FancyLittleThings, Elaine W. Miller with another nugget of marriage wisdom!
We are glad to have her a part of Guest Week at FancyLittleThings!!
A wife fulfills a role no one else can fill. She is her husband’s wife. Curious, I looked up “wife” in Roget’s Thesaurus and learned a wife is a “spouse, mate, bride, partner, companion, better half, consort, squaw, soul mate, ‘… crown to her husband.’ — Bible, and [oh my] ‘A former sweetheart.’ — Henry Louis Mencken.”
We do need to be careful not to be our hubby’s former sweethearts, don’t we? It’s easy to do. Some days we act less like a wife or a sweetheart and more like a boss. Perhaps we can learn from what happened to me.
My Dan came home late from a meeting that seemed more like a battle. Physical exhaustion, weariness, and a burden of issues weighed heavy on him when he walked in the front door. Poor Dan. His “former sweetheart” didn’t greet him with a kiss or a hug, a cold drink or a coffee. Instead, I pummeled him with questions. Our family room filled with more tension than the board room he just left.
“What happened? Who said what?” I interrogated.
My sweet man didn’t answer.
Yearning for my embrace and hungering for my love, he held me close and whispered, “Elaine, I don’t need you to be my boss. I need you to be my wife.”
Our marriage changed that night. No longer would I greet my man with a barrage of discouraging questions, a list of complaints about my day, or a honey do list. Now when Dan walks in the door he is loved, kissed, held, edified, cherished, and adored by his wife — who is working hard not to be his boss or his “former sweetheart.”
It’s a tough world out there. We need tender homes. When your honey walks in the door, hold him and greet him with a kiss. Make your home a sanctuary of love, acceptance, and contentment.
The words of Solomon’s bride echo in my heart when she says,
“Thus I have become in his eyes like one bringing contentment.”
Song of Songs 8:10 (NIV).
That’s my prayer and goal as a wife. Will you make it yours?
Elaine W. Miller is a speaker and author of three books including We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can. She and her husband Dan, an ordained minister, have been married 42 years. They reside in Rome, NY, enjoying a beautiful and sometimes idiotic life together. Three married children and eight grandchildren complete their joy!
For further information:
Elaine’s website and blog: www.SplashesofSerenity.com.
https://www.facebook.com/elaine.w.miller, https://www.facebook.com/WeAllMarriedIdiots, https://www.facebook.com/pages/Elaine-W-Miller/202625069765960
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