“When he gets home . . . boy, I’m going to let him know how that makes me feel!”
“Just wait until I see him, I’ll tell him how I HATE it when he does that!”
“I’m going to call him right now at work and he’ll see how he shouldn’t do this because it makes me so mad!”
You’ve never thought those words . . . ever . . . right? I’m sure not one woman can relate to the “just wait until he gets home” mindset of retaliation, emotional spewing, and internal turmoil. Sure . . . and pigs can fly.
My hope is to share with you my overwhelming realization that I am NOT RIGHT or EXCUSED or JUSTIFIED in letting him “know how I feel” when I am being self-righteous, excessively sensitive, indignant, or prideful.
I’m a very emotional creature (I’m sure none of you can relate to that sentiment either). I feel what I feel and that’s just the way I feel. What I feel is “never wrong.” My emotions if I give them reign will OWN the reigns. And I let them much too often.
God forgive me.
When my emotions are put on a pedestal and my husband becomes locked away in my passionately hinged dungeon, I’m doing something wrong!
I don’t have a right to share my feelings when they are toxic and torrential. My feelings and my emotions are not acceptable just because I feel them. I have a desire for my marriage to be built up, but “honestly” sharing these types of emotions will only create rifts. Being open with my spouse doesn’t involve my verbal emotional vomit.
The gist: Our feelings are not okay to share when we are practicing sinful emotions.
We have to repent to God. We have to take those sinful emotions and lay them down. When we start to get the thoughts of “I feel what I feel and that’s just the way I feel,” we need to give ourselves a spiritual smack and rebuke our emotions. When we are in sin, we need to face up to it.
List of Sinful Emotions
Anger – James 1:19, 20, Galatians 5:18-20
Pride – Mark 7:21-23, Proverbs 11:2
Hatred – 1 John 3:15, Proverbs 10:12, Leviticus 19:17
Jealousy – Galatians 5:18-20, Proverbs 27:4
Fear of man – 2 Timothy 1:7, Hebrews 13:6, Luke 12:7
Lust – 1 John 2:15-17, Matthew 5:27-28
Sensuality – Mark 7:21-23, Galatians 5:18-20
Envy – Mark 7:21-23, Proverbs 14:30, 1 Corinthians 13:4
Greed – 1 Corinthians 5:9-11, Proverbs 1:19, Mark 7:21-23
I feel that sometimes we don’t categorize our feelings correctly. We feel and feel and feel and just say “that’s how we feel,” but we don’t analyze what’s really behind it. Let me clarify how these nine emotions can play out in our households:
Anger – indignation, irritation, bitterness, resentment, exasperation, fury, crossness
Pride – arrogance, self-importance, vanity, bigheadedness, selfishness
Hatred – bitterness, animosity, disgust, hostility, loathing, distrust, aversion
Jealousy – possessiveness, overly protective, suspicion, distrust, misgiving
Fear of man – concern, anxiety, distress, panic, dread, nervousness, worry, tension
Lust – longing (outside of marriage), desire (outside of marriage), unhealthy wants
Sensuality – lack of remorse, carnal, shamelessness, licentiousness, recklessness
Envy – discontent, jealousy, desire of more, unhappiness without base, restlessness
Greed – dissatisfaction, self-indulgence, discontent, pleasure seeking, disappointment
We must attain for excellence in our emotions, our marriages, and with our families. Let’s be women who seek the Lord for self-control by ceasing to give ourselves over to our emotions and starting to practice gentleness and forgiveness. Let us allow God to be the peace inside of our hearts and homes.
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